by Murali Murthy
Best-Selling Author, Motivational Speaker, Transformational Coach
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“Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” – Lao Tzu
No personal success, achievement or goal has ever been realized without self-discipline. It is singularly the most important attribute needed to achieve any type of success in any field be it sports, the arts, politics, academics, religion or any other area.
It is also the only trait that separates the high achiever from the average person. Once you master self-discipline, possibilities open up and opportunities reveal themselves. Self-discipline is simply the ability to control one’s impulses, emotions, desires and behaviour for a greater good. It also means cultivating a mindset whereby you are ruled by your deliberate choices rather than by your emotions, bad habits or the sway of others.
What you can Absorb and Comprehend:
In order to attain self-discipline you need to first understand how achievers come by this important feature. There are several dominant characteristics that identify folks who have become masters of their emotions and achieved self-discipline.
They all love what they do and make it happen at any cost with clear accountability and commitment. And because they enjoy their work, they are able to derive a strong sense of purpose from it. They know exactly where they want to go in life and are able to stay motivated. These seemingly simple behaviours made it possible for high achievers to reach unbelievable goals in all areas of their lives.
How you can Excel:
- Identify a deeper purpose.
Your first task is to identify the one thing that you love to do and that will crystallize your purpose. When you really enjoy what you do, it is easier to bring to bear all the necessary qualities such as perseverance, belief in yourself, positive attitude, single-mindedness and discipline that will help you succeed.
Identify your passion by making a list of all the things you are good at, everything you enjoy doing and everything that gives you a sense of meaning and purpose. Then identify the skills and resources that you need to sharpen and achieve your objectives.
For instance, if you are passionate about becoming a speaker, identify the skills that you need to sharpen like developing a broad vocabulary, subject knowledge, speech writing, voice clarity and presentation skills. Love what you do and the chances for success are high.
- Be precise, stay focused.
Good habit-formers have a precise idea of their goals in their minds. Each day, the first thing you must do when you wake up and the last thing you must do before going to bed is to visualize the goals you wish to accomplish. When you build a clear mental vision of what it is that you are trying to accomplish, nurture it carefully like a flame on a candle and stick to that vision 100%.
- Schedule and monitor your new habits.
When you put something on a schedule, you are more likely to do it. Committing to hit the gym at 7 AM each morning has a better chance than hoping to go to the gym when you find time in the day.
Keeping track of your new habits can help you to master them. A food journal if you’re trying to eat healthy or a step counter if you are trying to walk more, help you monitor your habits and measure the progress.
- The power of 10.
There is a difference between being busy and being productive. Take the time to review your commitments and goals and do the most important things first. Make a habit of writing down at least 10 ‘to do’ things each day, prioritize them and do as many of those things as you can each day.
- Be patient.
You need patience and perseverance to make your dreams come true. Believe that if you keep going after your goal, it will happen even if you experience some setbacks along the way. Learning to be patient takes time, and, somewhat paradoxically, it takes patience to learn to be patient.
Almost all of us do better when we know someone’s watching. A support group – be it a spouse, family member or friend create an external accountability that help us keep on track with our goals. Just the awareness that you are answerable to someone for committing to perform an activity, will help you to make your new habit a priority.
- Celebrate your Success.
Commit to finishing what you begin. Persevere and get the job done – irrespective of the time it takes to accomplish and the many ups and downs. And along the way, learn to celebrate your accomplishments. Frequent small celebrations are a great reward for your patience – and vital to keep body and mind moving forward to win one more day.